Wearing a bathing suit in public used to TERRIFY me…
DOES WEARING A BATHING SUIT IN PUBLIC TERRIFY YOU?
Girl, I’ve been there.🙋♀️
So many times.
When I first moved to San Diego from Utah in 2014, for the first 3 years, every time summer came around, I would freak out knowing those beach & pools days were coming.
I would start to compare and even resent my body.
Knowing I was going to have to expose myself and show what my body really looked like completely terrified me.
AND HONESTLY, THERE WERE SO MANY TIMES I JUST WANTED TO THROW ON SOME SWEATPANTS, MAKE UP SOME EXCUSE AS TO WHY I COULDN’T GO AND HIDE IN MY APARTMENT, WHICH I’M NOT GOING TO LIE… I ACTUALLY DID A LOT.
It wasn’t fun knowing I should have put in a little more work ahead of time but I also didn’t like feeling like I needed to diet or deprive myself of my favorite foods every time bathing suit season came around.
But… I have to admit, it also wasn’t fun feeling insecure and constantly comparing my body to other girls every single time I was at the beach.
When I finally decided to make a change in 2017, I tried everything I could to overcome this “bikini fear”.
I decided it was time to stop feeling insecure and work towards being “that girl” at the pool/beach instead of that girl who envied everyone else.
When I first committed to making a change, I was a mess.
I tried different diets.
I said no to carbs.
I did a ton of cardio.
I tried “eating healthy.”
BUT nothing worked.
I was discouraged, my body wasn’t changing, and my body confidence was at an all time low.
Why was nothing I was doing showing results?
Instead of seeing results for all my hard work, I kept finding myself overwhelmed and ashamed with even the thought of putting my bathing suit on.
I was so discouraged but I knew I couldn’t quit.
If I wanted to overcome my bikini fear and finally achieve the body that I wanted and could be proud to show off, I HAD to do something different...
Maybe running myself into the ground for no results wasn’t the answer…
SO, INSTEAD THIS TIME I DECIDED TO DO THIS ---
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Give myself some grace
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Instead of taking things to the EXTREME like I usually would, I dedicated myself to making small daily progress like drinking water & not eating out.
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Finding BALANCE with my nutrition
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I learned how to calculate macros and started to understand the right portion sizes for my body instead of just “eating healthy.” I stopped feeling guilty for every little hiccup and took it day by day focusing on nourishing my body instead of depriving it.
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Changing my MINDSET to positivity
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Instead of putting my body down, I actively worked on building it up. I would tell myself daily affirmations like:
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You’re beautiful Elise
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I love your legs Elise
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Your hard work is paying off Elise
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Over time, my confidence grew and I actually started to LOVE my body.
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I switched up my workouts
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I realized that I had been doing the same workouts for YEARS and the workouts I was doing were no longer helping me achieve my goal but instead were taking me further away.
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I stayed consistent
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Now that I was taking a more BALANCED approach instead of one that was EXTREME, it was easier to stay consistent. I continued to stick with it, even when I fell off I would jump right back into my routine and finally all my hard work was yielding results.
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LET’S TALK BALANCE
I PREACH BALANCE SO MUCH BECAUSE BALANCE IS LITERALLY, EVERYTHING AND IT’S WHAT REALLY HELPED ME CHANGE MY LIFE.
I realized that yo-yo dieting and depriving myself was NOT going to help me look good in a bathing suit at least not long term.
What ultimately helped me look good was creating a healthy and balanced lifestyle that supported the goals I was trying to reach at the time.
That lifestyle included fueling my body with healthy nutrition AND allowing myself to enjoy the things I loved as a part of it.
We can really be our own worst critics, especially while staring at yourself in the mirror, wearing a bikini. BUT once I found this balance, my body began to change and I gained SO much confidence!
OVERALL, HERE IS WHAT HELPED ME:
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Setting an attainable goal
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Using the 80/20 rule to keep me on track WHILE I got to enjoy the food I love
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Learning how to fuel my body with proper nutrition
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Getting some support!
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Allowing myself to feel confident even through the process of working toward my goal
Looking back, I laugh at all of the ridiculous things I put my body through trying to achieve that amazing body that I wanted.
IF I COULD TAKE ANYTHING BACK, I WOULDN’T HAVE WASTED TIME ON “DIETS” OR MONEY ON “PRODUCTS” THAT PROMISED QUICK RESULTS.
I definitely took the long road to getting where I want to be but I’m proud to say I got there!!!
If I can do it, you can do it!
Ditch the diets, don’t give up, find what works for you and keep working girl!
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You got this!
Xoxo Elise
